{"id":2080,"date":"2023-02-27T13:30:00","date_gmt":"2023-02-27T13:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.careplangcm.com\/?p=2080"},"modified":"2025-10-23T02:22:21","modified_gmt":"2025-10-23T02:22:21","slug":"if-you-are-not-the-primary-caregiver","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.careplangcm.com\/index.php\/2023\/02\/27\/if-you-are-not-the-primary-caregiver\/","title":{"rendered":"If you are not the primary caregiver"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"700\" height=\"400\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.careplangcm.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/SepiaPaperdollCircle_AdobeStock_77960551-700x400-1.jpg\" alt=\"If you are not the primary caregiver\" class=\"wp-image-2081 lazyload\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.careplangcm.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/SepiaPaperdollCircle_AdobeStock_77960551-700x400-1.jpg 700w, https:\/\/www.careplangcm.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/SepiaPaperdollCircle_AdobeStock_77960551-700x400-1-300x171.jpg 300w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 700px) 100vw, 700px\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 700px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 700\/400;\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>If someone else in your family has primary responsibility for the care of your loved one, that doesn&#8217;t mean you don&#8217;t have anything to contribute. Far from it! Caring for an older adult is more than one person can do alone. There are many ways to lend a hand (even if you don&#8217;t live nearby).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Consider:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Managing finances, talking with the doctors, doing yardwork, running errands.<\/strong> If direct care isn&#8217;t your thing, address other needs. Anything you can take off the plate of the primary is a help.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Contributing money.<\/strong> If you live far away and have the means, pay for outside help to give your sibling some relief.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Providing emotional support.<\/strong> It&#8217;s often very lonely to be the primary caregiver. Having a good listener to talk to for safely blowing off steam can ease the load.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Giving them a break.<\/strong> Gift them a &#8220;spa day&#8221; where you make all the arrangements and they just enjoy. Spend some of your vacation time caring for mom or dad so the primary can have an extended rest.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>&#8220;My sister would never go for that!&#8221;<\/strong> The biggest complaint in many families is that the primary caregiver is so particular, it&#8217;s impossible to help. True. They may have trouble letting go of control. As long as there is nothing medically dangerous about what you propose, however, you may need to assert yourself and express your right to participate in your parent&#8217;s care <em>in your own style<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>If you get resistance, consider a facilitated family meeting.<\/strong> Family dynamics are decades old. A counselor, social worker, or care manager can guide a conversation constructively. Families are an ecosystem and each member inhabits a niche. It will be better for your loved one, and for you and your siblings, if everyone has a chance to contribute, each in their own way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Do your family roles seem locked in place?<\/strong> <br>They have been finely honed since childhood. But that doesn&#8217;t mean things can&#8217;t shift to be more appropriate to family needs when mom and dad require help in their older years. As the greater Cleveland experts in family caregiving, we at <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.careplangcm.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Careplan Care Managers<\/a><\/strong> can help you rebalance the roles. Give us a call at 440.476.9534.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If someone else in your family has primary responsibility for the care of your loved one, that doesn&#8217;t mean you don&#8217;t have anything to contribute. Far from it! Caring for an older adult is more than one person can do alone. 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